Conditional Parenting and its Influence on the Child’s School Activity

  • Andreea Sitoiu University of Bucharest; Transilvania University
  • Georgeta Panisoara University of Bucharest
Keywords: parenting style, parenting practices, school activity, relationships, communication


This article addresses the topic of conditional parenting, and it focuses on analyzing the relationship between parenting and the school activity of the student at the level of primary education.
Conditional parenting, which provides the child with conditional love and self-esteem, it stands out by: focusing on the child's behavior, considering that human nature is negative and parental love is a privilege that must be earned, also being the adept of punishments and rewards.
Conditional love entails the parent's desire to have an obedient child, obedience being the basis of control.
`How could an obedient and conditional loved child develop competencies for the future? How well will he meets the demands of today's school or how will he relate to the faculty? These are the questions that have guided the approach of the whole mixed type research, that has been carried out over a period of half a year, using the following methods: questionnaire based survey and focus group method.
Through this research, conclusions were drawn regarding conditional parenting and its influence on school activity of the pupil in the primary cycle.
Starting from the interpretation of the research results, it was highlighted that the relationships between children and parents based on safety and unconditional love have contributed to the harmonious development of the child and to the skills for the future, through school.

Author Biographies

Andreea Sitoiu, University of Bucharest; Transilvania University

PhD, University of Bucharest, Faculty of Psychology and Educational Sciences, Romania;

Assistant professor, Faculty of Psychology and Educational Sciences, Transilvania University


Georgeta Panisoara, University of Bucharest

Assoc. Prof. Habil, University of Bucharest, Faculty of Psychology and Educational Sciences, Romania


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How to Cite
Sitoiu, A., & Panisoara, G. (2021). Conditional Parenting and its Influence on the Child’s School Activity. LUMEN Proceedings, 16, 472-489.